Family, Life, people

A Face Book “AHA” Moment – Just a Simple Anecdote About Connecting

Yep, it’s cool in some circles to disdain the social media queen bee.  Some of my best friends won’t go near the place.  Why would they want to waste their time?  True, if you’re not careful it can chew up your minutes like Pac Man.

Yesterday I was going through some old family photos and wavering between tears and laughter as memory after memory zinged me.  I found one of my son and I , taken some years ago at the beach.  We were both caught in a moment of sheer delight as he sat on my lap in the sand at Santa Monica.  I felt the joy of that moment and wanted to share it with my friends.  So I immediately scanned the photo, did what I could with the lighting in Photoshop – which wasn’t much – and posted it on my Facebook page.

Late today I logged on to catch up on what was happening in cyber land and wow, a couple dozen friends had acknowledged and ‘liked’ the photo and a few even commented.

These were friends and family who represented many phases and stages of my life and I was momentarily overtaken by the sheer idea of it all.  Friends from elementary school in Canada for heaven’s sake – friends from nursing school – a cousin from Scotland that I have never met (one of these days Aly ) Other family that I haven’t seen in decades or get to see less than once in a blue moon.  And friends of today who share my present life – whether they be quilters, artists, lost coin members, fellow music lovers, photographers – you name it – whether we’ve met ‘for real’ or just online.  Add to that,  former work colleagues and clients who it is a pleasure to stay connected to.

 Now, while I enjoyed the idea of  sharing this photo, it was hardly something that I would attach to an email and send to 99% of the people on that list.  It just wasn’t that big a deal.  Picture this imaginary conversation via email:  “Oh hey, Janice – look at this cool pic of me and my kid when he was three.”  Janice – “huh?  Why send me that?  Huh? “  Me – “I dunno”.  

However, posting it on Facebook – entirely different –  much more casual. It’s probably amongst the more rationale things that people post there in fact.

So I did and once again I’ll state that Facebook is truly the town square that some say it is meant to be.  And I’m happy to be able to hang out there.   Hope to see you there soon, passing through!


Poetry, Poetry and Photography

True Friends


I awaken, open my eyes and remember with a sinking feeling

that I won’t be hearing from you today.

You won’t be there to surprise me with a sweet hello.

Such a silly little thing to have been so often the highlight of an otherwise dull day filled with monotonous chores.

Such a silly little thing to miss so fiercely,

but so typical of the you I’ve come to know.

And come to count on to pick me up from the depths and kick my butt and tell me not to be so hard on myself.

Reminding me that life’s too short to be hung up on the little things.

I took it all to heart

Even if you thought I wasn’t listening.

It’s been a hard journey made easier by words like yours,

always timely, ever welcome


Open to hearing my woesome tales of loss, of disappointment and grief

Patient with my ranting and tolerant of misplaced anger

You’ve been a constant in a capricious world.

Demonstrating by example the courage to travel your own path

As I was embarking upon my own;

applauding my successes and dishing out heady

doses of lavish praise that stirred my creative spirit.

While I watched you as you tilled the soil of your life’s journey –

Planning your future and showing your devotion to your family.

Always feeling close

Almost a kinship

Certainly one of spirit and harmony.


Life is full of surprises and things change.

Inevitably and never according to our timetables

Friendships begin, evolve, and strengthen

And sometimes meet with chaotic forces

that threaten to destroy all the inherent good.

Always being tested by external stresses. we sometimes

create our own distracters unaware of potential for harm.

And when communication is lacking or unclear

or expectations not well defined

we cause hurt without rancor to those we care for most.

Utter spiteful words, throw out hasty accusations,

or fail to explain actions that could be perceived as hostile.


Beyond the words, despite the actions

the singular beauty of friendship

can survive or perish

determined by the value placed on it.

The repercussions of this episode will echo

endlessly for this lonely friend

unless some resolution is made possible.

There’s still a lot to do

more hurdles to overcome, more strength needed.

The support, encouragement and admiration of a true friend

Is precious and sometimes even vital.

You are that precious vital friend.